Backwards!

Wait, isn't the spanker supposed to look gleeful and the spankee supposed to look horrified?  Maybe this lady is too much of a handfull for that stressed-looking guy. Poor fella.

Prolonged absence from the blog can be attributed to ennui, busyness, lack of spanking, etc. Lover comes for a visit in early August, however, so frustration on that front will soon be banished. AND I've got a new leash that needs to be christened. Oh, joys.

Dildo Factory, Part 2

Here we are, darlings:

Pictures of a dildo factory.

And should you hunger for more dildo factory information goodness, just Google it. You will find plenty, trust me.

What you do in your own home is your business. It's my business to laugh at it.

Well, general business has been getting in the way of me really kickstarting this blogging fandango. I can't say how many times I've stopped and thought "Man, I really should post something," but unfortunately not done it. 

However, when I came across the following link on Sexoteric, I knew I had to preserve the link in my own little netspace.

25 Most Disturbing Sex Toys

I'm all about tolerance for other people's groove, but if you can't laugh at yourself, you, my friend, are lost. The list made me laugh out loud even though I'd seen most of the toys already - hell, I've even wanted a couple of them.

Not the dildo gas mask, though.

Dildo Factory

You know what would be a weird job to have?

Dildo factory.

"Honey, I have some bad news... They're laying off people at the dildo factory."

Expect more on this topic.

Salute to Beautiful Men

Inspired by a mention of Adrien Brody in this post by the wonderful Spanking Writers, I've decided to start a semi-regular feature* here: Sins of Wonder Presents The Salute to Beautiful Men. I hereby dedicate this feature to Adrien Brody, to whom I have long harbored a ridiculously extreme attraction. Guess who the first man featured in Salute is?

OMG ITS ADRIEN BRODY.

Alright, maybe it's the nose. I have a habit of being attracted to men with more... er... prominant noses. But no one can deny that Brody is a very handsome fellow.

Let me clean up my drool for a moment and say that I couldn't really imagine him to be a very kinky guy. As I said in my comment on Haron and Abel's blog, he seems to laid back for serious kink. But I could easily imagine a scene with soft candlelight and silky ties holding my wrists down - you know, something bordering vanilla. He seems to lean on the gentle side.

Just look at him and this puppy! It's cute!

 

In my search for Brody pictures, I actually came across a pretty hardcore fansite. It was a little creepy. While adoringly admiring beautiful men, Sins of Wonder cautions readers not to lose their heads.

But I can see how it would be easy. ^_^

So, here's to Adrien Brody, who is not just a beautiful man, but a bona fucking fide gorgeous man!

Dynamics

I'm no veteran of any sort of 'scene' - just a woman with a lot of thoughts, some of them (alright, a lot of them) relating to sex and kink. So, I don't pretend to know a ton about anything beyond my own personal experience, and conversations I've had or witnessed. However, a topic on a particular spanking board I frequent got me thinking about the dynamics in a spanko relationship - who is getting satisfaction, and why, and how? 

The starter of this topic seemed to have the impression that it was mainly the 'bottoms' of a spanko relationship who derived pleasure from the activity, which of course may be true in some places and very untrue in others. Testimonies from people who recieve spankings from partners who don't enjoy the activity (or don't enjoy it to the same degree) are often less enthusiastic than those with partners who match in kink. Clearly, there needs to be reciprocation, there needs to be connection on the same level for either player to really enjoy themselves.

I was lucky enough to introduce my love for spanking to a man who turned out to be as crazy about it as I am. If I hadn't, I know that I would either have had an unfulfulling sex life with him, or have sought elsewhere for love and lust.* I have made relationship decisions in the past that involved consideration of kink levels. 

Isn't this sort of the same as love? If one person loves another, but is not recieving the same amount of love, that person will be unfulfilled and therefore unhappy. It isn't even enough to be happy yourself, though, or to feel as if you are being loved as much as you love. The dynamics must match - in spanking, in lust, in whatever - for the fulfillment of both partners. 

Which makes me think that humans aren't as self-centered as they are made out to be. 

*Although I can't help but think that I wouldn't really have loved him anyway, if he wasn't the sort of person who was wild enough the perfectly match my needs. Oh, but lust is complicated.

Spanko Survey

Picked up from Less Talk More Spanking, here is a spanko survey.

My lazy way of introducing my preferences.

spanking survey
Have you ever gotten spanked?:	Yes.
Do you like to be spanked?:	Of course!
Are you bad?:	No, not really.
Are you spanked over you pants or pants and undies pulled down?:	I get spanked on the bare.
What is your favorite thing about spanking?: Hum... All of it!
Do you get spanked hard?:	Yes, Lover is a vicious boy.
What position are you in when getting spanked?:	Either OTK or bent over the bed.
What do you like to be spanked with?: The belt and the crop!
Do you all get spanked?: Yes, all three of me.
Who spanks you?:	Lover
How long does the spanking last?:	Depends on how long he can keep his hands out of my vag.
When is the last time you got spanked?: Ages ago :(
Do you spank yourself?: Not regularly.
Do you have a spanking fetish?:	No, not at all.
After your spanking is over do you still act bratty later on?:	Spanking is really more of an encouragement than a deterrant, ha.
How hard do you get spanked?: Pretty hard.
Have you ever gotten your butt belted?: Gods yes, it's awesome!
Have you ever gotten your butt paddled?:	Yep!
Have you ever gotten spanked in public?: No! I would freak.
What do you get spanked with the most?: I'd say it's pretty even.
On a scale of 1-10 how much does the spanking hurt?: Normally, for my specific paint tolerance, it's about a seven.
Do you feel you deserve it?: Yes, because I'm good and should get what I want.
What do you get spanked for?: Being sexy, I think.
How many times have you gotten spanked?: Too many to count.
How many times the spanker spank you during the spanking?: See answer for "How long does the spanking last"
What do you do to deserve them?: Act like the cute, sexy girl that I am.
Have you ever gotten spanked infront your friends?: No. They wouldn't be into that.
Have you ever gotten you butt caned?: No! Cane frightens me.
Do you like the pain of the spanking?: Mmm, yes.
Have you ever gotten spanked with a wooden spoon?: No, but I'm sure a time will come.
Have you ever gotten spanked with a hairbrush?: See above answer.
Have you ever asked to be spanked for something you did wrong?: Not since I was a kid.
Is spanking a big part of your everyday life?: It depends.
Do you get spanked more than once a day?: No, I'm not getting any at all right now.
How often do you get spanked?: I don't, right now.
Is your butt red and sore afterwards?:	If I'm lucky.
Do you spanked gently or hard?: Hard! Seems you tend to repeat questions.
Have you ever gotten spanked with a sneaker?: Haha, yes.
Do you believe in spanking?: Well, it wasn't a figment of my imagination last time I checked.
Have you ever been spanked so hard that you started to cry?: No.
Whate age Do you stated getting spanked?: I guess I got it once or twice as a kid. As an adult, I started practicing my fetish fairly young.
Do you still a get spanked?: Yes, Lover has that lucky job.
Do you think that spanking is a good punishment?: Not for me, I like it too much!
Have you ever gotten spanked for swearing: No, we both cuss like sailors.
Do you think spanking is fun?: Extremely.
What does the spanker say to you before your spanking?: Usually something to the effect of "Take your panties off."
Have you ever gotten spanked for getting bad grades?:	No.
Have you ever gotten a spanking for no reason at all?: No, I get spanked because we LIKE it. That's totally a good reason.
Have you ever gotten spanked by a teacher?: Nope.
Is your butt spankable?: According to Lover, it is perfect.
Who spanks you the most?: Lover.
Is spanking your hobbie?: Fetish, not hobby. I have vanilla hobbies.
Do you want a spanking right now?: YESSS.
Do you get lectured during the spanking?:	No, not really.
Have you ever gotten spanked with your butt in the air?: Like, floating off by itself? No. My butt tends to stay attached to my pelvis.
Have you ever gotten spanked so hard you butt was swollen?: Not really.
Have you ever watched someone else you know getting spanked?: No.
Do you hate spankings?:	NO!
Have you ever spanked someone: Yep.
Did they learn their lesson?: No lesson to learn... just for fun.
How many people spank you?: One.
Is spanking allowed in your family?: Ha, not the way I do it at least.
Have you ever been spanked with more than one spanking instrument?: At once?!
Have you ever gotten spanked for lying?: Nope.
Have you ever gotten spanked for cursing?: Again, we both curse like sailors.